This is our Elf on the Shelf. He’s on a vacation. A permanent one. Our Elf left three years ago and he is never coming back. Never.
Just like most parents I bought into the idea. Ok, not really. Honestly, I was only doing it because my neighbor’s across the street were and their children were constantly talking about their Elf. Can we say peer pressure?! Ha! I was feeling guilty and also feeling like my kids were going to start asking why they too did not have an Elf arrive the day after Thanksgiving. Sooooooooo, what does any parent do that doesn’t want to spoil the magic of Christmas? We buy the Elf. Oh crap. What I didn’t realize is that I had just committed myself to yet another daily obligation during the busy holiday season.
Sure, the first year when I only had two young children it was fun. I tried my best not to get sucked in to those Pinterest ideas of the cute Elf making these perfectly placed messes and adventures all for the beauty of the perfect photo. No, I would keep it simple and just move our Elf here and there around the house. High enough so that my kids would not even be tempted to touch the Elf. And yet still within their sight line so they were able to discover it each morning when they went on the hunt for the Elf. It worked, but I still found it laborious. I would have my occasional “oh no, I forgot to move the Elf” mornings, but fortunately my children were still younger (preschool age and toddler) and didn’t ask too many questions. They were just happy to see their Elf each day.
Fast forward to year three of the Elf on the Shelf when he was “supposed” to be making his grand appearance after Thanksgiving. With a third child (3 weeks old), a large holiday to do list, and all of my other wifely, motherly, and family obligations…
I decided enough was enough. My elf was not going to be on the shelf. Ever again.
For the past two (and now approaching three) years, our Elf hasn’t made it to our shelf – and here is why.
- Time. I just flat out have had to learn to say no to some things. As parents we have an ever growing to-do list, especially during the holiday season. At the end of each night I do not want to have to do one more thing. Or even worse, wake up in a sweat in the middle of the night just because I forgot to move the ELF. I think it is easy to get caught up in doing what other people are doing (or not doing) and worry about what others would think if you didn’t (gasp) have an Elf on the Shelf. But when I think about all the other things that I need to accomplish, this one didn’t make my priority list.
- Money. At the time of purchase (2013) I believe my elf was somewhere around $30. For a stuffed doll!? But did I buy it? I. Sure. Did. Did I have to buy a second one for the all intensive purpose of shooting this YouTube video because I misplaced the first one. I. Sure. Did.
- Don’t want to do it. Period. Some people are WAY smarter then me and just flat out said no to the Elf. They have never started it, and have avoided this problem all together. Other people are more like me. We’ve been peer pressured into this ELF (that’s a bad excuse, but the only one I have) and now find ourselves obligated to do it because our kids now expect to be visited by the ELF. Make sure before you start the Elf on the Shelf tradition, that it is one that you are fully committing yourself to. It isn’t easy to escape this one (until now that is…)
- I don’t feel guilty. At all. I never had an Elf as a child growing up, and call me crazy but I still had wonderful, memory filled holiday seasons. The very reason I actually started doing the elf (peer pressure) was the very same reason I stopped. I realized that my kids were going to be talking to their friends about the Elf, comparing stories and adventures of their little elves and I never wanted my kids or someone else’s kids to feel pressured because their Elf wasn’t doing something silly, funny, or Pinterest worthy.
My kids are beginning to ask questions. I am just trying to keep the magic of Christmas alive.
I am seriously looking over my shoulder as I type this blog post. My older two are readers and if they ever saw this blog post, the MAGIC of Christmas would be destroyed. My kids still have the MAGIC of Christmas within them and I want it to stay that way for as long as possible! With my oldest in 2nd grade, I would hope that Christmas magic continues for a few more years.
The irony in this whole post is that although the Elf will not be on my Shelf this year, he is still sucking up my time, money, and energy. Look at me, I brought the Elf on the Shelf on vacation with me!? Ha! I don’t hate the Elf on the Shelf. Honestly, I think it is clever and creative. The problem is as parents we need to pick and choose what we are going to do with our kids during the busy holiday season. I love to see when different families incorporate their Elf in acts of good deeds, charitable work, and family traditions. I am choosing to no longer do the Elf on the Shelf with my kids – and that’s OK. And if you are still chugging along with your Elf – you are AMAZING mamas!
HOWEVER, I am hoping that in writing this that other moms see that we have options for this commitment we have put ourselves in. And I am giving you all the tools you need to pull it off.
For me, peace out Elf!